Values

We all have primary values but we seldom pay them any attention.  We have values in all areas,  Career, Relationship, Family, Fitness, Personal Growth, Spirituality, etc…  If you are not feeling good in any area of your life then it will more than likely be due to your values in that area not being met. Knowing your values, and their relative importance, is key to a happy and a healthy life.

Let’s take a look at job Values and let’s say for instance that your top 3 values in a job are, 1.  Progression, 2. Challenge and 3. Variety.  Now if your current job meets these top three values then you will be contented and fulfilled in your job, however if for instance there is no room for progression, you know the job in side out so there is no challenge and you do pretty much the same routine every day, so there is no variety, then you will find that you will not be happy in your job.  It is important to live by your values, as they are the core of who you are – and who you want to be.

In NLP we usually work with the top 8 Values, I have coached many clients who come to see me due to a feeling of being stuck or discontented and once we get to work on their Values, they are quickly able to see why they feel this way and they are then able to see what they need to do in order to rectify this.

If you feel that there is something wrong in any area of your life then start by looking into your values in this area.  List your top 8 Values, take your time on this, and juggle them around until you are 100% they are in order of importance, 1 being the top most important value.  To help ensure they are in the correct order ask yourself,  “If I could have number 1 but not have number 2 would that be ok”.   If the answer is yes, then you have that value in the correct position, but if the answer is no, then swap them around. Carry on asking questions accordingly, i.e. if I could have number 1, but not number 3, would that be ok? Then repeat with number 2 and follow through until that value has been compared to all the values below it. Then do the same with value number 3 and so on until you have completed all eight.

By doing this you will know for sure that your Values are in line of importance and then you can measure them against the area you are working on by either ticking or crossing.   If your top 4 values are ticked then you will be pretty much aligned and you may just need to make some smaller changes to get the lower values met, however if the top 4 values are crossed then this will signify that you need to make changes in order to be content.

By becoming more aware of the values in all areas of your life, will enable you to use them as a guide to make the best choice in any situation.

 

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Comfort Zone !!!

Comfort Zone

If  you dread going to work every day and spend your week longing for the weekend then you are probably in the wrong job.  It is true, believe it or not that some people love their job and enjoy going to work, yet there are others that have real trouble believing this.  They really believe that a job is not to be enjoyed, that it is a means to an end, it pays the bills etc.   The difference is, those that enjoy their job are those that chose to do something they love.

What usually keeps us in an unsatisfying job is the comfort zone.   This is a dangerous place to be! You feel safe, there is no pressure, you know what to expect every day and there are no risks.   But at the end of the day, you probably  feel worn out, de-motivated, lethargic with no zest for life.  It is not long before all of these symptoms start to impact on your whole life,  such as relationships, fitness, self-confidence and socialising.

I can tell you now, there is not one single person that stepped out of their comfort zone and regretted it!

It’s usually fear of the unknown that keeps us trapped but once you take the first step your whole life will change for the better.

Exercise 1 

Close your eyes and visualize your resignation.   However you would complete this by letter, or email, visualise every step.  See what you see, hear what you hear and feel what you feel.  Visualise every detail.   Now take a big deep breath in and then breath out letting go of all negativity.  Open your eyes.  What are you feeling?  Is it fear or is it excitement?

Exercise 2

Make a list of:

  • Everything you have to gain by staying
  • Everything you have to gain by moving
  • Everything you have to lose by staying
  • Everything you have to lose by moving

The answers will speak for them selves. what is the positive intention of staying in a dead-end boring job that offers you no future?

What is the positive intention of staying in a boring dead-end job?

Once you are in a job you enjoy you will be motivated, have more energy, more confidence  and all areas of your life will improve.

Happiness  Dances On Busy Feet!

Are you in the right job?

When we are challenged we are motivated, when we are motivated we are confident, when we are confident we are happy, when we are happy we are successful!

 Can you tick yes  to all of the below? 

  • Are you passionate about your work?
  • Are you challenged
  • Are you motivated?
  • Are you progressing|?
  • Do you have job satisfaction?
  • Do you get recognition
  • Are you valued?

We spend around 2000 hours working per year, if you don’t enjoy  what you do then you are wasting your valuable time.  If you were given the choice to stay in a boring job or to do something you love but for less money what would you choose?

Life is so short,  enjoy every part of it, not just the weekends?