Since the Covid Breakout our lives have changed in such a short time,
we are seeing a world that we have never seen before.
We are also learning along the way.
We are learning how to adapt and cope on a daily basis, we are learning the importance of hygiene across the world, how to be appreciative of others and how to help and be there for those most vulnerable.
Some of you may be looking after family. Many of you will be getting used to working from home and being isolated, some of you may have no work
and struggling to manage.
This is a very tough time for all, but the one positive that will come from
this is that we will learn!
We have lived for far too long in a superficial world of Greed, Wars, Materialism, Selfishness and Violence and have also caused so much damage to our beautiful Planet.
The most positive learning that we will gain during this time is that we will learn about ourselves more deeply than ever before.
So don’t give up, we will get through this and we will come out the other side with a much deeper awareness of what is important in this life.
And that is to show love, to show gratitude, to be kind, to be there for each other,
and to look after our beautiful planet.
Where ever you are right now remember that
Today is the First day of the rest of your Life.
Focus on what you can achieve during this period of lockdown, what projects could you
work on? There is always something to do, and being productive will
keep you in a good mindset even at the worse times.
More than ever before you now realise that every day is a new beginning and one day not too far away, we will all look back and realise just how much of this life
we have taken for granted and just how much more we have to offer
to ensure our world and our planet survive.
Keep safe, keep positive !
How would you like to earn money from doing something you love? If you love your job then that is great news. However, if you dread getting up every morning and long for the weekends then it’s time you did something about it.
So many are in shit jobs just to pay the bills, consider how many hours you are spending doing something that does not satisfy your needs. Imagine instead spending those hours doing something you love, something you are passionate about, wouldn’t life be great?
What did you love to do when you were a kid? For instance, my daughter loved photography as young as five, hard to believe but I actually have a photo of her at the age of five taking a photo. I remember years ago telling her that she was a talented photographer and her reply back then was “the camera does the work I just click the button”. She did however come to realise that this was her passion and now earns a living from photography, she doesn’t earn a fortune but enough, the big thing is SHE LOVES HER JOB. It isn’t about making a fortune or being famous, it’s about being satisfied.
I had another client who was a factory worker but loved fitness, he now runs his own gym classes and of course is very happy.
I always ask my clients what their talents are and most say they don’t have any, until we start digging a little deeper and then they always pop up, here are just a few, Music, Painting, Writing, Sport, Fitness, Creating Gift Cards, Dancing ….. the list goes on.
Simply by bringing these passions into your life may make your shit job not so shitty after all. As I said its about being satisfied and by realising your true passions you will come alive. You will feel invigorated and motivated to make the dream even bigger and who knows you could end up making a living from it.
Don’t get stuck on the grid working 9 to 5 unless you love what you are doing.
It is never to late, its not that hard, it is there inside you, don’t wait any longer.
Make a list right now of your passions, then consider ways you can bring these into your life right now, without quitting your job. You CAN make the time, all you need is the desire.
Don’t sit back and plod along, look within, realise your true purpose and GO FOR IT.
You can do this !
The start of a new year is a good time to look deeper, to examine your life and see what needs to change. This is why we tend to make New Years Resolutions, which often we don’t keep to. This is probably due to them being a ‘should’ rather than a ‘Want’.
The ‘should’ is what you feel is expected of you rather than what is important TO YOU.
When we hear from others what we ‘should do’…. this then keeps nagging at us and we can then start to feel discontent. It is not about anyone else it is about YOU. Only YOU know what is right for you, it does not matter what anyone else thinks, listen to your higher self and follow your instinct.
- Are you happy in your job?
- Are you happy in your relationship?
- Are you happy where you live?
- Are you happy with your weight/fitness?
- Are you following your passions?
Once you start to look at all these areas you will become more in touch with what changes, if any, that you need to make. These may not be life changing, they may just put you more in control of your life and reaching your dreams.
It is very easy to slip into a mundane existence and just plod along. Making small changes in all areas of the above could improve every area. It may be that you do need to make big changes, only you will know.
If this is the case, look at what is stopping you from making these changes.
- Is it fear of stepping outside of your comfort zone?
- Is it fear of the unknown?
- Is it fear of failure?
Don’t let fear hold you back. It is better to regret doing something than to regret not doing something.
It may be that you are in a place due to others’ needs rather than by choice? Most of us are trapped in prisons of our own making caring too much about everything that does not really matter. You have one life so make sure you live it rather than just exist through it.
The only constant in life is CHANGE. You can’t see into the future so don’t assume you can, don’t let “What ifs” prevent you from taking back control. Only YOU know what is right for YOU, look within, if it feels right just GO FOR IT!
So often through my coaching I hear people claim that they struggle to ‘fit in’.
I also felt this way many years ago, so I understand this from experience. Having studied Coaching and NLP, I now understand this in more depth and I thought I would share it with you.
Think about what ‘fitting in’ means to you. What is it that you feel is missing? How do you know you don’t fit it? How would you know if you did fit in? What would be different? How would you feel? What would you hear? What would you see?
The truth is, there is nowhere for you to ‘fit in’. There is no key that unlocks that special place for you. You are searching for something you will never find because there is no such place.
You see ‘not fitting in’, is something that you have created in your own mind, just as I did many years ago. I didn’t believe I fitted in at school, at work, in later years when I had children, I didn’t feel I fitted in with other Mums at the schools. When the befriended me and invited me out with them, I didn’t get why they wanted to be friends with me because in my head, I just didn’t fit in.
So there lies the key, it was all in my head! No one else thought I didn’t fit in, they liked me, they included me, in fact I didn’t really have any enemies, most people generally ‘liked me’. It was simply a belief, just as it is for you.
We are all unique, special, beings, we all have different needs, qualities, desires, talents, preferences and dreams, and so on and on. So why do some of us have this misbelief that we do not ‘fit in’, where did it come from.
In NLP there is a period between the ages of one to seven which we refer to as the imprint age. This is the period in life that we just absorb everything, we are like a sponge, we take in all that we hear, feel, smell, taste and it is embedded in our unconscious mind. In later years this transmits into our behaviour and beliefs. So somewhere way back in your child hood, you learned to believe that you ‘don’t fit in’, just as I did.
I remember when I was six years old, my mother insisted I had my hair cut short. I didn’t want it cut, I hated it so much that I dreaded going to school the next day. As you can probably imagine, I was laughed at and told I looked like a boy, amongst many other comments. Even the Teacher made a joke at my expense, when calling my name from the register, I raised my hand, she said “you’re not Vicki, where is she”. The whole class was looking at me and laughing aloud and I just wanted to run, run as far away from that school as I could. But of course I couldn’t, I had to stay, and put up with the finger pointing and laughing all day and even the next day. So that was where I decided that ‘I didn’t fit in’. Of course, I had forgotten all about this until it came to the surface during practice through my NLP Training.
The good news is, if you have learned it, then you can unlearn it. For many years I told myself “I don’t fit in”, if you keep telling yourself this, then like me, you won’t fit in anywhere. So stop right now, don’t tell yourself this ever again. You are listening to everything you say about yourself so ensure you tell yourself the good stuff like, “I am unique, special, and comfortable with who I am”.
No one fits in anywhere or needs to, we are all different, some people we get along with, others we don’t, it doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with them or us, it just is what it is.
Think back to the time when you could have learned this mis-belief, it could have been after the imprint age, maybe you were bullied or picked on by your friends, siblings, maybe you heard a striking comment from your teachers, or even your parents, that lodged itself deep within your unconscious.
The next step is unlearning that belief, to start with stop comparing yourself to others, be happy being your unique self. Stop saying to yourself and others “I don’t fit in”. Every time you are about to think or say this, stop, shake yourself off, and remind yourself that you don’t have to fit in anywhere, that you are special and unique just as everyone one else is. Your unconscious mind believes everything you tell it to be something positive, something you want, so it is very important to start being aware of your self-talk and ensure it is working for you and not against you.
Keep practicing every day, it doesn’t take long to unlearn old behaviour that is not serving you well, but it does take practice
This is just the beginning, if you want to know more about how to overcome limiting beliefs and decisions that are holding you back, then visit my website for further information. http://www.vickifrench.com.
So my lovely unique reader, make a decision with yourself right now that being you is simply awesome!
At the start of a new year its always cold, grey and dark outside but it doesn’t have to be the same inside.
If you have entered January with a doom and gloom feeling, that nothing will change, that it will be just the same as last year, that your life sucks.
Then stop right there and realise that you and only you have the power to make this year the best year you have ever had. That may sound so ridiculous, and so far out of your reach right now, but wait there is more.
Think of one single thing in your life, that if you could, you would change right now.
Now imagine how you would feel if that change was to happen right now.
You are probably thinking, ‘yea it feels great, but it’s never going to happen, its impossible’.
What if it is possible? What if I told you that thinking this way is a choice, that thinking this way is an easy option, that by choosing the easy option YOU are keeping yourself stuck.
Now see it differently, if it is you that is keeping your self stuck, then it is you that can get yourself unstuck. You have the power within to overcome anything that is holding you back. If you believe that it is impossible then it will be. If you believe you can do this then you will.
Make a decision with yourself right now, that you are going to get unstuck. Ask yourself “How can this get even better?”. As soon as you put this question out there, you are changing your energy flow, from ‘I am stuck here for ever’, to ‘I am ready for change’.
Nothing is impossible, it may be difficult, it will take time and effort, but you can do this. As soon as you take action then it all begins. Take the first step, then the second, then the third and so on. It wont happen over night, but by breaking it down into small steps, you will see fast results that will keep you motivated and moving forward, you will feel energised and in control.
Once you look within and Unlock your Inner Power you can achieve anything you desire.
If you hate your job, don’t stay. But don’t just go and get another job, decide what you would love to do and then search for it and don’t give up until you find it.
If you are unhappy in your relationship, decide why and how you can improve it. If you know for sure it is over, then end it. Its bad enough to waste your time but to waste the time of your partner is even worse. If you know deep down that its time to set you and your partner free then do it.
If you are overweight or unfit, make a decision right now to get more exercise and to eat healthily. Diets are a short term answer. You cant live on a diet for the rest of your life and generally once you come off it, the weight goes straight back on. Instead, eat healthy food, cut out all the junk and eating between meals. Start getting more exercise, walk more, use the stairs, small changes make a big difference. When you feel good about yourself, you will be motivated and energised.
You are where you are and how you are, because of you, no one or nothing else.
Once you realise the power you have within, you can change your life and be the person you were born to be.
So make a decision with yourself right now that 2016 is your year!
When you know something is right, you know from within, you don’t have to seek advice or approval from others. It feels right, it looks right and it sounds right, you simply feel so passionate about this decision that nothing could change your mind. You may choose to share your decision with others, simply to get their take on it, but any opposition will go right out the window.
What is happening here is that you are following your heart, you are tapping into your higher self, looking within and listening to your intuition, sometimes referred to as your gut instinct.
Many people have asked me how you can distinguish if it is your gut instinct or just impulsiveness. There is a difference, can you remember a time when you made a decision, but then you started to have doubts, questions popped up, such as ‘what if it isn’t right’? or ‘What if it all goes wrong? you start to wonder if this is your gut telling you to ‘do it’ or is it warning you ‘not to do it’. By now confusion reigns and you are not sure of anything, it all becomes a muddle in your head and this can be very frustrating.
It is not always easy to tap into your higher self and to follow your heart, however I have learned through my own struggles, that the key is in the questioning!.
Your gut instinct, your higher self, your intuition, however your refer to it, comes from within, you know instantly, there is excitement, there is light, there is joy and there is a fire in your belly. It only becomes confusing the minute you stop listening and start to question and doubt and let the ego take over.
Here is a very simple example…
You have purchased an item of clothing on line, it arrives, it is everything you expected, you try it on, you love it, it feels great, it looks great and you can’t wait to wear it. There is no doubt in your mind at all, in fact you take the labels off right there and then, it is not being returned!
Now let’s assume the opposite scenario….
The package arrives, you open it, it looks slightly different to what you expected, you try it on, you are not sure, you keep looking in the mirror at different angles, you are still not sure. You then seek another’s opinion, “Hey what do you think of this?” You get the reply “Yep great”. You go back to the mirror, you are still not sure. Then you go back to the person and ask if they really like it and if it really suits you.
Now you see the difference….If you have to seek approval or advice then there is your answer! As soon as you opened the package, you knew deep down it was not for you. You tried talking yourself into it, but when that didn’t work, you still didn’t listen, you went looking for someone else to convince you!.
The above is a simple scenario, but use moments like this to become more aware of your higher self, practice tapping into your intuition, following your gut instinct. This will enable you to make the right decisions for you, whether it be in relationships, jobs, buying a home or a car etc. If you live from the heart, you will lead a satisfying, fulfilled and passionate life.
So start right now, the next time your intuition screams from within, listen to it, notice how it feels, looks, sounds, notice where you feel it, learn to recognise it and harness it.
When I decided to become a Life Coach, many people advised me against it, for various valid reasons, but I didn’t listen because what anyone said didn’t matter to me, my mind was made up, I was following my heart and I have never looked back.
You hold within all the answers and all the resources you need. Trust your intuition and you will discover the power within.
In the words of David Bowie, “When you know, you know you know!”
If you feel that something is not quite right, or you don’t feel truly content with your life, then now is the time to take action and get back in control. You may feel ‘stuck’ or even ‘lost’. The longer this goes on the more of a struggle it becomes to see clearly, this can then impact on all areas of your life.
If the above sounds familiar then Coaching will work for you. Coaching will enable you to look deeper, to discover exactly where the problem lies and how to put the appropriate changes in place. It maybe that you know exactly what is wrong but you are choosing to avoid it for fear of the unknown.
Whether the problem lies within your relationship, your job or life in general, Coaching will bring you clarity and definition on exactly what needs to change to get you to where you want to be and how to get there!
If you would like to take advantage of my free 30 minute telephone breakthrough session then send a reply stating ‘Free Breakthrough Session’ in the subject box below.
Live the life you love!