Common blocks that could be holding you back

Do you feel stuck? Are you unsure of which direction you should take? Do you feel a little lost? If so, it could be due to internal blocks. Often we can unconsciously create patterns and beliefs in our mind that are not working for us and this can result in a belief that this is who we are and that we cannot change.   For instance, have you ever had a great idea, but you refrained from pursuing this due to worrying what others may think or say about you or do you frequently imagine what others are thinking about you? Do you continually look for external approval and compare yourself to others?   These negative patterns are mental blocks, they serve only one purpose, which is to keep you stuck and unable to move toward that brilliant idea.  This is most likely because you fear what is on the other side of NOT being stuck.   When you find yourself being apprehensive and doubtful of doing or saying something because of what others will think, you are actually preventing yourself from achieving the most amazing possibilities, that deep down you know you are capable of.  Always remember, it is better to regret doing something than to regret doing nothing.   Imagine if we all cared what people think, would anyone ever have the courage to do anything?  You and only you have control over your thoughts and thinking.  No one else has access to your mind, and you have no access to the minds of others so don’t assume you can mind read, you can’t. If you resonate with any of the above then it is now time to remove these blocks, read on and discover how.  “What anyone thinks is none of my business”   This statement is very empowering and will enable you to be your authentic self. Start using this statement at moments when you start to doubt yourself, just saying  “What anyone thinks is none of my business” will create an inner shift that will allow you to simply let go and be comfortable in your own skin.   In reality, all that truly matters is what YOU say and think about YOU!  It is now time to tell yourself a different story, one that works for you and empowers you, that allows you to be in the driver’s seat, that allows you to truly believe in you.   Stop wasting valuable time and energy worrying about what people think.   Whatever is right for you is all that matters, if it feels right then do it.    From now on every time you look in the mirror repeat the following: I am good enough; I am unique and special; I will be the me I was born to be; What anyone thinks is none of my business; I can do this; This is the new me.    If you don’t believe in you then no one else will.   Believing in you will allow you to recognise your ability to set goals. Accomplishing these goals will keep you focused and optimistic about the future. ​   Avoid looking for external validation, instead look within; this is where all the answers are.  It is ok to get feedback and guidance from external sources but at the end of the day it is your decision that truly counts.    Don’t let fear of failure keep you stuck, you will learn and grow from whatever you do, be it a success or not, therefore there is no failure?   Fear stands for False Evidence that Appears Real.  It is the main thing that holds you back from believing in yourself.   You have the power within to turn your life around you can do this!  Believe and make it happen, you have nothing to loose and everything to gain. It is your time to shine ! http://www.vickifrench.com 

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Follow your heart…

When you know something is right, you know from within, you don’t have to seek advice or approval from others.  It feels right, it looks right and it sounds right, you simply feel so passionate about this decision that nothing could change your mind. You may choose to share your decision with others, simply to get their take on it, but any opposition will go right out the window.

What is happening here is that you are following your heart, you are tapping into your higher self, looking within and listening to your intuition, sometimes referred to as your gut instinct.

Many people have asked me how you can distinguish if it is your gut instinct or just impulsiveness. There is a difference, can you remember a time when you made a decision, but then you started to have doubts, questions popped up, such as ‘what if it isn’t right’?  or ‘What if it all goes wrong? you start to wonder if this is your gut telling you to ‘do it’ or is it warning you ‘not to do it’.  By now confusion reigns and you are not sure of anything, it all becomes a muddle in your head and  this can be very frustrating.

It is not always easy to tap into your higher self and to follow your heart, however  I have learned through my own struggles, that the key is in the questioning!.

Your gut instinct, your  higher self, your intuition, however your refer to it, comes from within, you know instantly, there is excitement, there is light, there is joy and there is a fire in your belly.  It only becomes confusing the minute you stop listening and start to question and doubt and let the ego take over.

Here is a very simple example…

You have purchased an item of clothing on line, it arrives, it is everything you expected, you try it on, you love it, it feels great, it looks great and you can’t wait to wear it.  There is no doubt in your mind at all, in fact you take the labels off right there and then, it is not being returned!

Now let’s assume the opposite scenario….

The package arrives, you open it, it looks slightly different to what  you expected, you try it on,  you are not sure,  you keep looking in the mirror at different angles, you are still not sure.  You then seek another’s opinion, “Hey what do you think of this?”  You get the reply “Yep great”.   You go back to the mirror, you are still not sure.  Then you go back to the person and ask  if they really like it and if it really suits you.

Now you see the difference….If you have to seek approval or advice then there is your answer!  As soon as you opened the package, you knew deep down it was not for you.  You tried talking yourself into it, but when that didn’t work, you still didn’t listen, you went looking for someone else to convince you!.

The above is a simple scenario, but use moments like this to become more aware of your higher self, practice tapping into your intuition, following your gut instinct.  This will enable you to make the right decisions for you, whether it be in relationships, jobs, buying a home or a car etc.  If you live from the heart, you will lead a satisfying, fulfilled and passionate life.

So start right now, the next time your intuition screams from within,  listen to it, notice how it feels, looks, sounds, notice where you feel it, learn to recognise it and harness it.

When I decided to become a Life Coach,  many people advised me against it, for various valid reasons, but  I didn’t listen because what anyone said didn’t matter to me, my mind was made up, I was following my heart and I have never looked back.

You hold within all the answers and all the resources you need.  Trust your intuition and you will discover the power within.

In the words of David Bowie, “When you know, you know you know!”