MAKE 2019 YOUR YEAR TO SHINE

The start of a new year is a good time to look deeper, to examine your life and see what needs to change.  This is why we tend to make  New Years Resolutions, which often we don’t keep to.  This is probably due to them being a ‘should’ rather than a ‘Want’.

The ‘should’ is what you feel is expected of you rather than what is important TO YOU.

When we hear from others what we  ‘should do’…. this then keeps nagging at us and we can then start to feel discontent. It is not about anyone else it is about YOU.  Only YOU know what is right for you, it does not matter what anyone else thinks, listen to your higher self and follow your instinct.

  • Are you happy in your job?
  • Are you happy in your relationship?
  • Are you happy where you live?
  • Are you happy with your weight/fitness?
  • Are you following your passions?

 

Once you start to look at all these areas you will become more in touch with what changes, if any, that you need to make.  These may not be life changing, they may just put you more in control of your life and reaching your dreams.

It is very easy to slip into a mundane existence and just plod along.  Making small changes in all areas of the above could improve every area.  It may be that you do need to make big changes, only you will know.

If this is the case, look at what is stopping you from making these changes.

  • Is it fear of stepping outside of your comfort zone?
  • Is it fear of the unknown?
  • Is it fear of failure?

Don’t let fear hold you back.  It is better to regret doing something than to regret not doing something.

It may be that you are in a place due to others’ needs rather than by choice?  Most of us are trapped in prisons of our own making caring too much about everything that does not really matter. You have one life so make sure you live it rather than just exist through it.

The only constant in life is CHANGE.  You can’t see into the future so don’t assume you can, don’t let “What ifs” prevent you from taking back control.  Only YOU know what is right for YOU, look within, if it feels right just GO FOR IT!

Warmest wishes

Vicki

WWW.Vickifrench.com

Vicki@Vickifrench.com

Take the Reins and Make the Change!

Through coaching I see many people who are staying in a place that brings them no pleasure, they feel trapped and spend their lives just going through the motions? For some it is their job, they dread Mondays and long for the weekends. For others it is their relationship, they know what to expect every evening and every weekend? All these people are waiting for something to happen, instead of making something happen.

Life is for living not for tolerating; if the above sounds familiar then it is time you realised that only you are in control of you, no one and nothing else. No one can make you feel anything unless you allow it, no one else can make you do something unless you let them. The only person responsible for your unhappy life is you! You can change the things that you are in control of to try and improve the situation, but sometimes you can’t change anything other than by moving on!

What usually happens is that people stay and continually moan and complain about their miserable life. How often have you thought of moving on and what stops you?

Some people see it as ‘walking away’ or ‘giving up’ this promotes feelings of guilt and angst and this is usually what prevents them from moving on.

Let’s reverse the situation. If your partner told you they had wanted to move on for the last year or so, how would you feel? If your boss told you he had never been impressed with your work how would you feel?

So, are you staying for them, or for you?

Consider your options, stay and be miserable or move on and be happy. If you are totally sure you have done all you can and you know you will be happier moving on then by staying you are doing no one any favours.

We all have fear of the unknown but it is what you do with that fear that will make a world of difference. You can never know what the future will bring so why fear something that may never happen? Stop that chatter of “what if”. This is you inventing a future.

The one question you do know the answer to is “What happens if I stay”?

Don’t ask others, look inside for the answer. Visualise yourself taking action, how does it feel? There is your answer. Once you take action, you will feel relieved, lighter and free. You will be motivated to make other changes, try new things; you will take back control of your life.

There will be times when doubt creeps in, and you wonder if you are doing the right thing, it is normal to first feel elated after making a major decision and to then question yourself. When this happens take your mind back to that moment when you took action, feel that initial elation and relief. You felt that way, because you knew you had done the right thing. Don’t ever lose site of that.

Concentrate on the future and on what you want. Don’t spend time dwelling on the past and what you don’t want. There will always be change through life, how you perceive those changes is what is important. Rather than see ‘endings’ see ‘new beginnings’, rather than see ‘walking away and giving up’ see completion.

One day you will sit back and wonder why you stayed in that place so long!