Spring has Sprung!

Its Spring time once again, although it doesn’t exactly feel like it, however I am sure warmer weather will be with us soon!!

So it’s that time of year once again where you start to think about clearing out the old and starting a new.

You start working on the house, on the garden, planning holidays etc. but do you ever take a step back and take time to think about you.

For instance, when did you last ask yourself, Am I happy? Am I fulfilled? Am I satisfied? Am I motivated? Am I heading in the right direction? Do I know where I want to be this time next year?

If you answered yes to all the above then well done, you are on your path, you know what you want and how to get there.

If you answered no to some or all of the above then now is the time to wake up to yourself!

Indulge in some real you time! Set aside an hour alone with just a pen and paper.

Consider your life right now. For every question above where you answered ‘no’, now ask ‘why? Once you know ‘why’ then you can identify what needs to change. Once you know what needs to change, you can decide the first step in making that change.

Sometimes when we want to change things in our lives we look at the big picture and it all seems so far away and unreachable that often we push it aside and it then becomes just a dream.

The key is to break it down into smaller chunks – draw up a plan of where you are now, where you want to be and by when you want to be there. Next set weekly goals, write down the first step, then the 2nd step and so on. Once you break it down and start reaching these weekly goals, you become more motivated and pretty soon you are half way towards your desired outcome in no time at all.

Anything is achievable if you have the desire. Once you start looking ahead and planning for the future your life will have new meaning, you will become enthusiastic and positive.

If you have no enthusiasm for life then something needs to change, don’t waste any more time, life is too short!!

Coaching can provide fast and effective results. So take advantage of my Spring Offer. From now until the end of April 20% discount on all coaching sessions.

Live the Life you Love and Love the Life you Live!

Email to vicki@aaylifecoaching.com quoting ‘Spring has Sprung offer’

Take the Reins and Make the Change!

Through coaching I see many people who are staying in a place that brings them no pleasure, they feel trapped and spend their lives just going through the motions? For some it is their job, they dread Mondays and long for the weekends. For others it is their relationship, they know what to expect every evening and every weekend? All these people are waiting for something to happen, instead of making something happen.

Life is for living not for tolerating; if the above sounds familiar then it is time you realised that only you are in control of you, no one and nothing else. No one can make you feel anything unless you allow it, no one else can make you do something unless you let them. The only person responsible for your unhappy life is you! You can change the things that you are in control of to try and improve the situation, but sometimes you can’t change anything other than by moving on!

What usually happens is that people stay and continually moan and complain about their miserable life. How often have you thought of moving on and what stops you?

Some people see it as ‘walking away’ or ‘giving up’ this promotes feelings of guilt and angst and this is usually what prevents them from moving on.

Let’s reverse the situation. If your partner told you they had wanted to move on for the last year or so, how would you feel? If your boss told you he had never been impressed with your work how would you feel?

So, are you staying for them, or for you?

Consider your options, stay and be miserable or move on and be happy. If you are totally sure you have done all you can and you know you will be happier moving on then by staying you are doing no one any favours.

We all have fear of the unknown but it is what you do with that fear that will make a world of difference. You can never know what the future will bring so why fear something that may never happen? Stop that chatter of “what if”. This is you inventing a future.

The one question you do know the answer to is “What happens if I stay”?

Don’t ask others, look inside for the answer. Visualise yourself taking action, how does it feel? There is your answer. Once you take action, you will feel relieved, lighter and free. You will be motivated to make other changes, try new things; you will take back control of your life.

There will be times when doubt creeps in, and you wonder if you are doing the right thing, it is normal to first feel elated after making a major decision and to then question yourself. When this happens take your mind back to that moment when you took action, feel that initial elation and relief. You felt that way, because you knew you had done the right thing. Don’t ever lose site of that.

Concentrate on the future and on what you want. Don’t spend time dwelling on the past and what you don’t want. There will always be change through life, how you perceive those changes is what is important. Rather than see ‘endings’ see ‘new beginnings’, rather than see ‘walking away and giving up’ see completion.

One day you will sit back and wonder why you stayed in that place so long!